In “If The Buddha Came to Dinner”, Halé Sofia Schatz says “...transitions are important for us to pay attention to. They provide enough of a gap in our identity - we’re in the process of changing from who we were to who we’re becoming - to get us to pay attention to our inner life.”
This is so beautiful. It really captures the essence of transition well. It is at these times of transition like pregnancy that we question where we’ve been and where we are going.
As you are about to embark on this journey of parenthood, take advantage of this time to take a step back and reflect. Reflect on where you’ve been - what you’re proud of and what you’re less proud of, what you’ve stood for and what you’ve fallen for, what and whom you’ve prioritized, how much you’ve loved and laughed, how much you’ve given back and how it all stacks up. Who have you been up until now? And, more importantly, do you like, admire and respect that person?
As you look towards the future, ponder where you’re going - what you want to focus on, what you want to build and who you want to build it with, how you want to be in the world and what you want to be known for, where you want to live and love and how it all comes together. Who are you hoping to become?
As you paint your future picture of what life looks like as you, be audacious and yet grounded, optimistic and yet realistic, passionate and yet practical. Most of all, be intentional with your future. Don’t let time pass you by without choosing your desired path and purpose.
Once you become a parent, there are so many excuses to lose your way - time constraints, money constraints, health constraints, etc. etc. etc. But it’s precisely because you are a parent that you need to find and follow your own intentionally designed, uniquely crafted and desire-led way. The more clarity you have on your desires, the quicker you can get to the job of being the best version of you. And, the more lit up you are in the world, the better spouse, parent, sibling and community member you will be.
So, who do you want to become? And what kind of life do you want to design for yourself and your children?