In Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, Eker outlines the differences between the thought patterns of rich people and poor people. In my experience, similar mindset differences emerge between fit and unfit people. Here are a few of his observations and my perspective on the parallels in the world of health:
Rich people believe “I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me.“
Usually, if someone has been unsuccessful at getting into the shape they desire over a long period of time, they will take on a “victim” mentality. For example, they wonder: “Why can Suzie eat chocolate cake all day long and never gain a pound? Why is it that I look at a piece of chocolate cake and it ends up on my hips?” A victim mentality takes your power away; it keeps you stuck because it lets you believe that you don’t have the ability to control the situation.
Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.
Unfit people “want” to be fit; they think about it, they dream about it, they obsess about it. But, often, they don’t do what it takes to get what they want. When you commit or dedicate yourself to something, it means that you cut off all other paths. You don’t even entertain the possibility that your goal will not be achieved. You are fully engaged in doing whatever needs to be done to reach your goal. Wanting is nice, but it’s not effective. If you really want something, you must commit to making it happen - rain or shine. Check out our blog post on How to Change Anything if you’re interested in learning more.
Rich people focus on opportunities. Poor people focus on obstacles.
Unfit people tend to spend a lot of time stuck in their story - they’re unfit because they have low back pain, they’re unfit because they have a thyroid problem, they’re unfit because it runs in their family...and the list goes on. Yes, you can have low back pain that prevents you from moving more. Yes, you can have a thyroid disorder that makes losing weight harder. Yes, you can have certain genetic predispositions that may play a role in your health. However, if you focus on those issues, those issues will grow...and we certainly don’t want all that doom and gloom around. If you focus on opportunities instead, opportunities will abound. Instead of focusing on your low back pain, focus on what you can do to move your body. Instead of focusing on your thyroid problem, focus on what foods you can eat to nourish your body. Instead of focusing on your genetics, focus on your epigenetics. Shift your perspective, shift your results.
Rich people associate with positive, successful people. Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people. The people around us reinforce our perceptions and our behaviors. Fit people tend to surround themselves with other fit people; unfit people tend to surround themselves (either intentionally or unintentionally) with other unfit people. Look around you - are the people in your inner circle inspiring and enabling you to move towards your goals?
Rich people admire other rich and successful people. Poor people resent rich and successful people. You can’t become what you resent. Oftentimes, I hear unfit people hate on their fit friends. "They have it so easy. They’re so obsessed with CrossFit - it’s all they talk about. Their diet is so boring - I’d never make it a day eating like that". If you have negative messages around what it takes to get and stay fit, then you will stay unfit. It’s that simple.
Rich people think “both”. Poor people think “either/or”. Unfit people tend to operate with black or white / all or nothing thinking. Either I’m all in or I’m out. Either I’m a superstar or I’m a sloth. No room for error, no room for freedom. Fit people, on the other hand, are able to both complete a triathlon with amazing focus and dedication...and have a beer once in awhile. The same person can be fit and can be indulgent. It’s just a matter of how, when and why you choose to do each.
Obviously, this is a broad, sweeping generalization, but the point still holds. Fit bodies start with fit minds.
What other mindset differences do you observe between fit and unfit people?