Let’s get one thing out of the way right now: Your thoughts don’t run things...your beliefs do.
Whenever you are not achieving your goals, chances are high that there is a disconnect between what you think (conscious) and what you believe (subconscious). And, whenever there is a disconnect between the conscious and subconscious mind, the subconscious mind always wins out.
In The Answer, they explore this concept in great deal. The main takeaway is this: Your beliefs are upstream from your thoughts. In order to change your thoughts, you must first change your beliefs.
The progression goes a little something like this:
Beliefs (i.e. programming)-> thoughts -> feelings -> actions (i.e. habits) -> results
Beliefs are akin to the first domino in the set; they put everything else in motion. Your beliefs shape your thoughts; your thoughts dictate your feelings and so on.
So, what drives our beliefs?
In most cases, it’s our early life programming (and much of it, we don’t even remember). It’s what we overheard and observed from our parents, our teachers and our peers.
Money is always a struggle. Thin people are shallow. Rich people are snobs. The only way to be loved is stay small.
There are as many variations of these messages as there are people, but you get the point. Most of the time, we have beliefs that we didn’t even know about running around in our subconscious causing all kinds of trouble.
The Answer further explains this conundrum: “Setting goals is a function of the conscious mind. Achieving goals is a function of the subconscious mind.”
So, what’s a girl to do? Stay tuned for Part II where we explore how to address this disconnect.